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December 08, 2005
babies! babiesbabiesbabiesbabies!
Last night I made Lauren take me to the bookstore so I could look at
Taking Charge of Your Fertility and so I could compare The Ultimate Guide to Pregnancy for Lesbians and The Essential Guide to Lesbian Conception, Pregnancy, and Birth (the former is wonderful; the latter sucks and was immediately removed from my amazon.com wishlist upon returning home).
No, we're not having a baby. Not now, not in the next year. Probably not even in the next two years. So much needs to happen before we can start that -- IF we decide to go the route of me being pregnant, I need to lose weight, I need to do some intense EMDR and/or hypnotherapy on needles, and we need to have a substantially higher income. In the mean time, however, it does feel time to start doing some real research. Not blog reading. Not random searches on the web. Real research.
Anyway, I was really impressed by what I was reading. So thorough. Written so I understand what's being said. And also, I was impressed with myself. I only got grossed out once, and it was during a conversation with Lauren about what I was reading rather than while reading the book itself. Major major improvement for me.
I also looked at The Baby Name Wizard, which was a lot of fun, but not as much fun as I was hoping for. It had both of the girl names Lauren and I have picked out, but I didn't like any of the suggested sibling names for them. It didn't have the boy name I like, and the boy names that Lauren and I both like and agree on are far too popular. The end. I'm sure I'll look at it more, but I think I got what I could out of it. After all, I've been reading baby name books since I was 7, so most of what was in there wasn't new. Only the sibling name suggestions were really new.
I'm really enjoying learning about this new thing. Anyone who knows me well knows that unless I'm learning about something NEW, I'm bored out of my mind. This is something new, something useful (whether we go that route someday or not), and something fun.
I'm happy.
Posted to Books & Nesting at December 8, 2005 12:10 PM
Comments
Yay! I hope all goes well at the begining of this "baby" journey!
This is so exciting (And I'm jelous!)
Posted by: Mir at December 8, 2005 12:26 PM
Shh -- don't tell anyone, but we're hoping for a baby some time in the not-too-distant future, too.
I've heard wonderful things about Taking Charge of Your Fertility, but have yet to look at it. If you have the chance, head over to www.fertilityfriend.com; maybe you can start charting!
Posted by: Amanda Schumacher at December 8, 2005 01:14 PM
Why do you think the Toevs & Brill book sucks? I think Pepper is the lesser of the two. T&B are far more comprehensive and inclusive. Pepper is limited. I grant you, the editing of the T&B book is atrocious. But the information is really good. I'd love to hear your reviews!
Posted by: Jen (yup, another one) at December 13, 2005 10:26 AM
I suppose I was a little hasty in saying that it sucks. I would be completely willing to believe that it's a more informative book. I think I like the Pepper book for a beginning-to-look-into-pregnancy book. It's more *human* feeling. At least based on the little bit that I read. Perhaps I'll add the Toevs&Brill back to my wishlist for later on in the process... :)
Posted by: Rebecca at December 13, 2005 11:07 AM
We loved it. Way back (seems like a million years ago) when we were getting ready to start the process we bought it and would read chapters to each other at night. We loved all the pictures of lesbian moms and their babies and it really was good in terms of helping you understand the many, many options and pros and cons.
Good luck!
Posted by: Jen (yup, another one) at December 13, 2005 03:10 PM